How do we move forward, when there is a wall in front of us?
I began my healing journey thinking I was going to change the world, if this was a movie the protagonist would have just over come hardship then there would be a montage of the protagonist in a downward spiral, at the end of that a friend would come by seemingly out of nowhere and give some inspiring speech which is super relavent to what the character is going through, then the main character would do a montage of slump busting moves, like showering, put on new clothes then it would end with a running scene to save the day at the last moment.
Life is not a movie and a lot of the time there is no last minute saving of the day, but and I know what you are thinking “man this is depressing” and it is a bit of sad news but here’s the thing, life isn’t a movie, there are no scripts or reshoots, and that is a good thing, when that bad thing happens there are three things we can learn to do 1.) we can run from it and never face it. 2.) we can stand our ground and face it not knowing the outcome. 3.) we can turn and ask for help. And here’s the thing all three of those options are okay, I myself have chosen all three of these options with varying degree of negative and positive outcomes.
In my journey so far, I have learned that if you want to be helper and have the best intentions, then that only gets you so far. In the movie “Labyrinth” with Jennifer Connelly and the Late David Bowie, Jennifer’s character Sarah, starts out her journey in the labyrinth and walks for a very long time, until a little helper lets her in on a little secret, the walls only look like the are walls to Sarah and us the audience, but when she focuses her point of view like magic a way opens up. Wait what does that mean for us? change our view, how do we do that? that’s taking the third option and talking to someone about the options on what the next steps are.
you might be thinking how do I even start a conversation like that? who would I start a conversation like that? and why would anyone want to help me in this journey? okay okay okay. . . . those are the questions i was thinking, but they might apply to you as well, here’s the thing when coming up to a wall like that sometimes we don’t see the opportunities, we just see what is blocking our way and that can be frustrating and disappointing. just breathe, take a moment and sit in that discomfort and when you are ready, come back to the situation.
Inconclusion every situation is different but the tools to help in those situations can often start off the same, taking a moment to slow things down and look at the situation, taking the time to talk to a mentor or someone you have a connection with, then writing out a plan of attack or if you don’t like that wording a plan to move forward, then moving forwards.
